Figuring out what to say and how to start the conversation during a first date can be difficult and nerve-racking if you’re not prepared. After all, first impressions are everything and you don’t want to blow it by starting off the wrong way. Here are four easy ways to break the ice and get things going on a first date:
Use Humor Early On
It’s good to be funny during the first few minutes of a date, but it’s a bad idea to force the funny when it’s just not there. Laughing at your own halfway funny jokes is also a very horrible idea, unless the other person is already genuinely laughing as well. If anything, an actual joke should be told casually and with the disclaimer that a joke is on the way, otherwise you run the risk of being labeled corny. So, the best way to tell a few jokes on the first date is to just ask “hey, do you wanna hear a few jokes?” More than 90% of the time the answer is going to be “sure go ahead” or something along those lines. Try to start with the clean jokes in the beginning because you want to keep things classy at first.
Find a Mutual Interest or Activity
If telling jokes really just isn’t your thing and you’re more of the serious type, or you suspect that your date might be, then it might be best to start out by talking about something fun you recently did or something you’re interested in. Or you could ask your date a question about the last fun thing they did, and then from there you should be able to find at least one thing that you both have had an experience with or are mutually interested in. Such a small thing can guide the conversation along and help you get to know someone at the same time.
Come with a Gift of Some Sort
A simple gift behind the back and a compliment can be a great way to put a smile on your date’s face and show that you’re considerate and unique. Beyond that, even if your date doesn’t break into tears and thank you ten times in a row, it’s still a good conversation piece to talk about. Worst case scenario: they don’t like the gift at all – but that still gives you something to talk about and now you know what not to get them on the second date.
Wait For It
The Wait For It (WFI) approach can work wonders if you’re the type who doesn’t really know what to say but still wants to somehow engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with a person who you’re intimidatingly attracted to. Basically, you just wait for your date to say something first and then you have something you can respond to, so there’s not such much pressure to just come up with something spontaneously. However, if you wait too long and they don’t say anything, then you risk creating the “awkward silence” zone, during which time all sorts of negative thoughts about how boring and lame you are could be racing through your date’s head. So just try to keep that in mind, and say something if you have to.